INTIMATE - Citizenship, Care and Choice: The Micropolitics of Intimacy in Southern Europe
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Queering Friendship | citizenship, care and choice

16-18 October 2018, Lisbon | Portugal


Confirmed Speakers:

Jack Halberstam (Columbia University)

Sasha Roseneil (University of Essex)

Queering Friendship was the 3rd and final International Conference of the ERC funded study INTIMATE: Citizenship, Care and Choice - The micro-politics of intimacy in Southern Europe, coordinated by Ana Cristina Santos ( The Conference focused on LGBTQ Friendship, with a particular intersectional interest in practices of citizenship, care and choice beyond law and public policies.
Topics included, but were not limited to:

- To what extent have transgender people been actively involved in providing and/or receiving care for/from friends?
- To what extent have friends been replacing lovers and relatives in terms of home ‘making’ amongst LGBTQ people?
- Do people decide to cohabit with their friends, or does this mirror an adjustment to wider processes of legal, policy and cultural misrecognition?
- What are the needs, expectations and resources related to care provision for/from trans people from/to friends?
- How to improve public policies regulating shared accommodation amongst friends?
- How are the processes of precariousness affecting LGBTQ self-determination, including reproductive and partnering projects?
- How central is the idea of ‘the couple’, and to what extent, and in what ways, is that idea being queered?
- What does the recognition of sexual orientation, gender identity or relational orientation entail when it comes to citizenship, care and choice?
- How does LGBTQ politics of friendship intersect with those of ethnicity, disability and other forms of discrimination?

Conference Programme


2nd  INTIMATE International Conference: Queering Parenting

On the 2-3 March 2017, INTIMATE organized in Coimbra the International Conference Queering Parenting, around issues of parenthood and non-standard-reproduction, including medically assisted reproduction and surrogacy.
One hundred and sixty people joined the conference from across the globe. For this 2nd INTIMATE Conference we successfully implicated both national and EU policy makers in relevant knowledge production, together with scholars, activists and other professionals.

- Final Programme


03.03. 2017, Politicians Plenary - LGBTQ Politics in Southern Europe.

Catarina Marcelino, Secretary of State for Citizenship and Equality

Danieli Viotti, MEP. European Parliament

José Soeiro, MP. Portuguese Parliament


02.03.2017, Plenary Session – INTIMATE Consultants on Parenting

Chiara Bertone, “Handle (and Queer) with Care: Problematic Alliances and Good Parenting”. VIDEO

Christian Klesse, “Polyamorous Families – Parenting Practice, Stigma and Social Recognition”. VIDEO

Jacqui Gabb, “The (Analytical) Cost of Same-sex Parenthood”. VIDEO, Results of the Study on Medically Assisted Reproduction

Plenary session to present and discuss the results of the INTIMATE study on Surrogacy in Portugal, Spain and Italy conducted in 2016 under the strand of Parenting.

Beatrice Gusmano, “Brave intersectionality. Non-heterosexual Mothers Accessing ARTs in Italy;

Ana Cristina Santos, “Repronormativity and its Others: Reproductive Dissidence of Lesbian and Bisexual Mothers in Lisbon;

Luciana Moreira, “Universal Rights and Local Values: Lesbian and Bisexual Mothers Negotiating Futurity”;


02.03.17, Results of the Study on Surrogacy

Plenary session to present and discuss the results of the INTIMATE study on Surrogacy in Portugal, Spain and Italy conducted in 2016 under the strand of Parenting

Pablo Pérez Navarro, “Surrogacy Wars: Notes for a Radical Theory of Reproductive Practices”;

Tatiana Motterle, “Italian gay fathers through surrogacy: biology, normativities and extended international families”;

Ana Lúcia Santos, “Surrogacy in Portugal: troubling ideologies of parenthood”;


- Cultural Events

- Book of Abstracts

- Location: Teatro da Cerca de São Bernardo and CES Sofia (Coimbra).



1st INTIMATE International Conference: Queering Partnering 2016

On the 30-31 March 2016 INTIMATE organized in Coimbra the International Conference Queering Partnering, around issues of coupledom, non-monogamies amongst others. The Conference was very well attended – 175 delegates registered coming from countries as diverse as Argentina, France, Germany, Italy, Mexico, Poland, Portugal, Serbia, Spain or the UK. The feedback we received could not have been more encouraging! Videos of presentations are available here.


Final Programme.                                                        



31.03.2016, Plenary Session – Polyamory

Alessia Acquistapace, “Not-so-chosen loved ones. A critical approach to the rhetoric of choice”. VIDEO

Brigitte Vasallo, “Limits, boundaries and borders: frontex questioned from a queer non-monogamous perspective”. VIDEO

Daniel Cardoso, “The political is personal - The importance of affective narratives in the rise of poly-activism”. VIDEO

Christian Klesse, “Polyamory, Women's Erotic Autonomy and the History of Feminist Critiques of Monogamy”. VIDEO


30.03.2016, Plenary Session – Lesbian Coupledom

Ana Luísa Amaral, “‘Shame is consenting, shame is not loving': muses, bodies, worlds”.VIDEO

Gracia Trujillo,  “On marriage, equality and the rest of us. Some thoughts about queer partnering, assimilation and homonormativity”.VIDEO

Liana Borghi, “If Love is a Time Machine: Affective temporalities in intimate relation”.VIDEO

Sasha Roseneil, “The Lesbian C Word: repudiation and reversals, recognition and reparation”.VIDEO


30.03.2016, Results from the Study on Lesbian Coupledom in Portugal, Spain and Italy
Panel to present and discuss the results of the INTIMATE study on Lesbian Coupledom in Portugal, Spain and Italy conducted in 2015 under the strand of Partnering

Ana Lúcia Santos, “Doing conjugality: lesbian couples as producers of diverse intimate relationships”
Luciana Moreira, “Lesbian coupledom: between precarious lives and resistance against a normative system”
Tatiana Motterle, “Lesbian Couples in Rome: Queering Family Meals?”




31.03.2016, Results from the Study on LGBTQ Polyamory in Portugal, Spain and Italy
Panel to present and discuss the results of the INTIMATE study on LGBTQ Polyamory in Portugal, Spain and Italy conducted in 2015 under the strand of Partnering

Ana Cristina Santos, “One at a time: relationally diverse partners challenging the (monogamous) script of citizenship”
Pablo Pérez Navarro, “Beyond inclusion: relational diversity at the borders of citizenship”
Beatrice Gusmano, “The Kintsugi art of care. Unraveling consent in ethical non-monogamies”





Non-Monogamies and Contemporary Intimacies, 25-27.09.2015

25.09.2015, Keynote Speech Ana Cristina Santos, “Normalizing the slut? Relational citizenship, care and the daily management of intimacy”.




27.09.2015, Ana Cristina Santos, Beatrice Gusmano, Tatiana Motterle, Pablo Perez Navarro, Luciana Moreira, INTIMATE PANEL: REFRAMING COUPLEDOM THROUGH SAME-SEX RELATIONAL CITIZENSHIP IN SOUTHERN EUROPE.


              • Introduction (Ana Cristina Santos)
              • Deconstructing monogamous love: activist discourses on consensual non-monogamy in Italy (Beatrice Gusmano)
              • Filling the gap: recognition, activism and monogamy’s law in Spain (Pablo Perez Navarro)
              • (Non)monogamies in lesbians' relationships: motivations, challenges and choices (Luciana Moreira)